First of all, this guy was super sweet and actually was a friend of a friend so that fact that there was that pre-approval helped with the initial awkwardness.
We went on two dates and there wasn’t much of a connection so it didn’t work out. No big deal.
BUT, guys, why ‘o why do you tell girls you want to settle down and have kids when you still are partying until 5am and “once in a blue moon” doing coke?? That is not baby daddy behaviour. (not my baby daddy anyway)
If you’re still doing those things, go for it. I would never hold that against someone but don’t claim to be someone you’re not, or ready for a phase of your life you clearly aren’t.
Lesson learned: Guys, just be honest about what you’re looking for upfront and don’t just tell us what you think we want to hear. Oh, and don’t do coke please.